We can’t force someone to reconcile with us. We can apologize. We can do everything in our power to right the wrong. But not every relationship will be fully restored.
Once we do our part to reconcile it is up to the person who has been hurt. Maybe the hurt was too deep. Maybe they lost trust or no longer feel that their heart is safe in that relationship. Or perhaps they are just unwilling to forgive.
We can’t force them to enter back into a relationship with us.
Forgiveness is dependent upon nothing and no one other than yourself. Reconciliation IS dependent on forgiveness.
Reconciliation will look different in different situations. It’s possible that you will need to reconcile with someone you have wronged but were never in a relationship with. You do what you need to to right the wrong done but that doesn’t necessarily mean you will become friends with the person.
And as I’ve mentioned in a previous post, there are people that I may chose to walk away from at some point.
Boundaries are important! Boundaries are necessary. We are told to guard our hearts and there are people who are unsafe. We do not have to be friends with everyone.
“A righteous man is cautious in friendship.” (chooses friends with care)
Proverbs 2:24 says “Do not make friends with a hot-tempered man, do not associate with one easily angered.”
There are people who we are better off to avoid forming relationships with.
Romans 12:18 tells us “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”
Sometimes to be able to live at peace with someone we need to make sure we are never in the same room.
When we have wronged someone we should always attempt to reconcile, but it won’t always end the perfect way.