But it’s in the Bible. Actually let me give you the verses surrounding the fruit of the Spirit.
You, my brothers (and sisters!), were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love. The entire law is summed up in a single command; “Love your neighbor as yourself.” If you keep on biting and devouring each other, watch out or you will be destroyed by each other.
So I say, live by the Spirit, and you will not gratify the desires of the sinful nature. For the sinful nature desires what is contrary to the Spirit, and the Spirit what is contrary to the sinful nature. They are in conflict with each other, so that you do not do what you want. But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under law.
The acts of the sinful nature are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passion and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other.
Live by the Spirit.
If you are a born again believer you have the Spirit living in you. And Jesus says of the Holy Spirit:
“But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I have said to you.” (John 14:26)
“But when he, the Spirit of truth, comes, he will guide you into all truth. He will not speak on his own; he will speak only what he hears and he will tell you what is yet to come. He will bring glory to me by taking from what is mine and making it known to you. All that belongs to the Father is mine. That is why I said the Spirit will take from what is mine and make it known to you.” (John 16:13-15)
The Spirit is in us and is the Counselor and Teacher. He will teach us how to live by the Spirit.
We are told to live by the Spirit and that the life lived by the Spirit is one with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness and self-control. If it were not possible to live like this then we would not be told in the Bible to do it.
It is possible. It may be difficult to make changes that are necessary in order to live this way but it is not impossible.
I think the key is admitting that we can not do it in our own strength and therefore need to fully rely on God.
Set an example in life!