Sunday, February 12, 2017
Relationships Are Messy
And it is.
We pass around fluffy quotes. The people that pass them around are usually in a good place in their relationship. They are in a place where it still feels amazing all the time. They are young. They are dreamers.
I was once one of those people.
But... I don't know... I've been married for 14 years now and I have been in a REAL relationship, even the "right relationship" as I've seen this quote say as well, and I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but not every day is going to be like Valentine's day.
Some days are going to be hard.
Some days will be filled with stress and fighting.
And some days will feel like Valentine's Day... but not every day.
Wouldn't it get boring if every day was like Valentine's Day anyways? Wouldn't it lose it's appeal because it would become the routine and expectation and there is no surprise in routine.
Maybe .0001% of relationships will find this quote to be true through their entire life.
Chances are it won't be yours. And I don't say that to be mean (although I am a bit jaded). I say it to prepare you.
Relationships are messy because life is messy... people are messy.